Warts and All

In the time of Oliver Cromwell in Britain, it was customary for noble people to be painted by portrait artists. Much like today’s obsession with airbrushing and “Photoshopping” images of celebrities and models, the painters would ignore any ‘blemishes’ in their subjects and paint them as they would look were those blemishes removed. Apparently, when Cromwell was sitting for his portrait, the artist began to paint him as he usually would, but then Cromwell, who was not the most beautiful person to have graced the planet, instructed the painter to paint him “warts and all”. The story goes that he insisted that every blemish be included in the painting or he would refuse to pay the artist for his work.

It still amazes me that when we gather for worship we so easily believe that we can present ourselves to God as an “airbrushed” version of ourselves. We may dress in special clothes, sanitise our language, and hide our fears and angers behind smiles and light banter, but we know the truth that lurks inside of us. It’s telling that these broken parts of ourselves, that bring us so much pain and rob us of so much life, are known as “skeletons in our cupboards”. As long as we pretend that we’re ok, as long as we hide our worst selves behind the façade of religious observance or pseudo-goodness, we remain broken and we find ourselves living a double life – saying, singing and praying one thing on Sunday and living a contradiction through the week. Such an existence is brings us neither healing nor true intimacy with God.

If we genuinely seek to live life to the full, and if we recognise that deep relationship with God is the key to this life, we cannot continue in this deception. Rather, we will find that we need to lay down our hypocrisy and become ruthlessly honest with ourselves, with others and with God. It is only when we are ready to face and deal with the truth about ourselves that we can embrace life in all its complexity and creativity and beauty and abundance. And this is why one of the most important – albeit difficult – disciplines in Christian worship is the practice of confession.

While in some churches confession has been formalised and ritualised, offering a safe and ongoing way to confront ourselves and the truth about our lives, it does not necessarily require this. In fact, each time we gather for worship we are (or should be) offered a chance to do this work. I have already written about how an encounter with God inevitably leads us to an honest encounter with ourselves. This is actually true of any genuine experience of intimacy, whether it’s with God or another human being. It is only as we allow others to get really close to us that they can reflect back to us the things in us that need to change – which may be why so many of us avoid intimacy at all costs. If however, we are courageous enough to take the risk of letting our true selves show – especially with God – we discover an amazing, healing, truth. We find that we are loved, appreciated and accepted – warts and all!

So, next time you are invited to spend time in confession try to resist the urge to run or to disengage until it’s over. Rather, seek to be honest with God about yourself – the good and the bad – and allow God’s grace to heal and change you. You’ll be so glad you did.
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John van de Laar is a Methodist minister, liturgical consultant and the author of the book Food for the Road – Life Lesson from the Lord’s Table. He holds a Master’s Degree in theology from UNISA, and is the founder of Sacredise.com, an international worship training and resourcing ministry. John is married to Debbie, and they have two sons.

Visit www.sacredise.com for more articles by John, as well as resources for personal and public worship – music, prayers, liturgies, images and drama scripts.

Perspective

Preaching is an interesting activity. I like to ask questions in my sermons, but I have seldom received an answer. At times, when I’ve really wanted people to talk back to me, I have had to push really hard before they give me some response. But, only once have I been interrupted.

I had been reflecting on how we view the world – whether we feel it is getting better or worse – and I asked people to think about our their own feelings. Suddenly an elderly man stood up and, looking around with eyes that were filled with grief and sadness, said, “I don’t think the world could get any worse…” Then he sat down.

For many people in our world today, there is no question that the world is terrible and that it’s only going to get worse. But, while we may deny it, this is not fact. It is simply perspective.

None of us is capable of seeing the world clearly. How we view our circumstances, our political and economic realities, our futures and our neighbours is all filtered through our upbringing, our religion, our language, our experiences, our culture and many other lenses. But, what we don’t always realise is that these perspectives impact how we live. If we feel that things are bad, we will tend to be pessimistic, fearful and suspicious of others, and we will act in ways that protect what we have and ourselves. But, if we feel that the world is a good place, we will tend to be much more positive, trusting and open. Whether we are optimists or pessimists, the world remains the same. It is only our perspective that is different. Which is why we so desperately need something bigger than ourselves to give us a better perspective on the world.

Every Sunday, as we gather for worship, we are engaged in the work of “perspective-shifting”. We may not even know we’re doing it, but as we sing and pray, as we read the Scriptures and listen to their meaning for us, our view of the world, of ourselves and of others is being subtly, but significantly, changed. As we encounter God, and as we are given again the vision of God’s reign that worship offers us, we begin to see things from the perspective of God’s purpose and God’s presence. We begin to think about things in the light of God’s grace, God’s justice, God’s compassion and God’s salvation. And this divine perspective changes our human perspective in remarkable ways.

One of the most important activities in worship that feeds this “perspective-shifting” is adoration. When we lift our eyes from our own limited view, and begin to focus on who God is and what God is doing among us, we cannot help but see everything differently. As we express our praise of God, we are reminded that there is another reality at work in our world. As we allow God to reveal God’s self to us, we discover that our resources and abilities are only a small fraction of all that God makes available to us, and we are reminded that, in the light of God’s glory and eternity, our sufferings and struggles are small and temporary (See 2 Corinthians 4:17).

We don’t offer praise in order to receive God’s strength and inspiration. We praise God simply because God is praiseworthy. But, in God’s grace, when we do this, we are changed. And the world begins to look very different when we realise that God really is at work in it – in ALL of it.
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John van de Laar is a Methodist minister, liturgical consultant and the author of the book Food for the Road – Life Lesson from the Lord’s Table. He holds a Master’s Degree in theology from UNISA, and is the founder of Sacredise.com, an international worship training and resourcing ministry. John is married to Debbie, and they have two sons.

Visit www.sacredise.com for more articles by John, as well as resources for personal and public worship – music, prayers, liturgies, images and drama scripts.

Wide-eyed Wonder

“I tell you the truth, anyone who doesn't receive the Kingdom of God like a child will never enter it." (Mark 10:15)

One of the things I miss about having little children is the constant wide-eyed wonder with which they journey through the world. Everything is new, everything is amazing and everything is mysterious. If there were a single word that most adults would do well to relearn from their childhood it’s probably “Wow”.

But somehow, as the years move on, as we learn more about how the world works, as we get hurt and tired and each day becomes a stumble through the routines that keep us alive, we grow cynical. It’s common to hear adults mock the optimism and possibilities of youth. It feels rare to find a grown up who still really believes in anything meaningful in a way that actually affects how they live. It’s like skepticism, pessimism and despair have come to be seen as the marks of someone who is really in touch with reality. If we have really become adults, if we really function properly in society, then we should always be suspicious, always be disillusioned.

In the words of Jesus we find a different way of living. Jesus recognised that when we lose our sense of wonder, when we stop being awed by the world, we lose an important part of what it means to be human and to be fully alive. When we can no longer appreciate beauty, joy, creativity, mystery, newness, and playfulness, our lives are little more than existence. We are no longer truly living.

If there is any spiritual practice that can reawaken wonder and inspire our sense of possibility again, it is the act of praise. As we gather for worship, and we make the choice to focus on God’s glory, beauty, grace, compassion, majesty and love, we are changed by the vision of God we receive. As we express our praise, we are drawn into a new awareness of all that there is around us and within us to adore. We begin to learn to see God’s presence and extravagant creativity not just in church, but in every moment and every place. We discover that there is so much to be surprised by, there is so much to be moved by, there is so much that can stop us in our tracks and leave us breathless with wonder and amazement. And we discover how inspiring and energising it is to recognise and really notice the glory in our lives and our world, and to express our awe in words and actions of praise.

If your heart is becoming heavy, if your spirit is becoming dry, then there is no better remedy than to turn to God in praise and allow God’s Spirit to open your eyes and your soul to the luminous Presence of God, the glowing beauty of creativity, and the life-giving attitude of wonder that is your natural, human state. And once you have opened the doors, you will discover that there is reason to praise in every situation and every moment in which you find yourself.
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John van de Laar is a Methodist minister, liturgical consultant and the author of the book Food for the Road – Life Lesson from the Lord’s Table. He holds a Master’s Degree in theology from UNISA, and is the founder of Sacredise.com, an international worship training and resourcing ministry. John is married to Debbie, and they have two sons.

Visit www.sacredise.com for more articles by John, as well as resources for personal and public worship – music, prayers, liturgies, images and drama scripts.

Worship for the Long Haul

It’s an instant world we live in. If our needs aren’t met immediately we get frustrated. Longevity has lost it’s attraction. We upgrade our cell phones every two years wishing it was sooner. We measure companies quarterly, and we choose our activities by the instant rush we hope to receive. It’s an instant world, which has given us so many benefits, but there’s a sting in the tail.

In the realm of spirituality, ‘instant’ doesn’t cut it. If we want a deep and fulfilling relationship with God, if we long to grow into the people we are meant to be, if we hope to make a positive difference in the world, this is going to take time and commitment. In spite of the promises in the books on the self-help shelves, no one becomes whole, healthy and spiritually strong overnight. And when I read a review of a book that promises to teach its readers to meditate like a Buddhist monk in just 30 days, I can’t resist the sorrow that floods me. I weep for those who sell themselves short by treating their most authentic selves, and their connection with the creator, like something you buy at a fast food outlet.

Unfortunately the culture of the instant has infiltrated our churches. While I love contemporary worship music, I worry when the music becomes the focus of our efforts. I love technology and I believe in using it in worship, but I know how seductive it can be, and how it can divert us into instant gratification, rather than the long, slow road of spiritual development. When we measure our worship by the goose bumps we feel, or by how well the band mimicked the latest worship CD, or by how dramatic the video production was, we have missed the point. We may feel an instant reward, but our souls have suffered the malnourishment of spiritual fast food.

At the start of a New Year we have a wonderful opportunity. We can make a commitment to long haul spirituality. Instead of measuring our worship by the weekly experience, let’s commit ourselves to waiting until the end of the year. And then, let’s judge our worship by how we have changed - by how we have become a little more like Jesus in his love for God and the world. Each week as we come to worship, let’s open ourselves, not to the instant gratification of a thrilling experience, but to the slow nurturing of a weekly discipline that will, sometimes, be thrilling, but, sometimes challenging, and sometimes just quiet and ordinary.

At the start of the New Year is a good time to reaffirm two profound truths about our worship. First, worship is not about what we do in church, but about how what we do in church changes the way we live when we’re not in church. Second, worship is not a weekly “fix” to uplift us and carry us through the week until our next “fix”. It is a discipline that we embrace with commitment and faithfulness, so that, through repeated practice over time, we are changed so that the world is better off for our presence.

Now that’s a resolution worth making.

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John van de Laar is a Methodist minister, liturgical consultant and the author of the book Food for the Road – Life Lesson from the Lord’s Table. He holds a Master’s Degree in theology from UNISA, and is the founder of Sacredise.com, an international worship training and resourcing ministry. John is married to Debbie, and they have two sons.

Visit www.sacredise.com for more articles by John, as well as resources for personal and public worship – music, prayers, liturgies, images and drama scripts.