Sacredise: Fatherhood

I read a disturbing story this week from Franciscan priest and author Richard Rohr. When he was doing ministry in a prison in New Mexico where he lives, he spoke to one of the social workers who worked in one of the prisons he ministered to. She told him how, in her first year at the prison, when Mothers’ Day came around, all the inmates asked her to get cards for them to send to their mothers for the special day. Everyone wanted one, and she struggled to keep up with the demand. Later in the year, when Fathers’ Day was due to come around, she decided she had better be prepared. So, she bought a whole box of Fathers’ Day cards in preparation for the requests that she was sure would come. But, not one prisoners asked her for a Fathers’ Day card. Years later, the full box still sits in her office. She realised at that moment how deep the father-inflicted wounds went in these men. Richard Rohr finished this story by asking whether our prisons would be nearly so full if our society taught men how to be good fathers.

It’s an old cliché but in the Church we have the privilege of a God who comes to us as Father. When Jesus first began to address God as “Abba” (Aramaic for ‘daddy), it was a radical thing. The prayer Jesus taught, which begins “Our Father” was a dramatic departure from the formal, law-regulated religion of the day. Jesus demonstrated that God was neither distant nor satisfied by dry religious observance. God was looking for relationship with men and women.

This past Sunday as we celebrated Fathers’ Day I was reminded that the Church is often populated far more by women than by men. There are all sorts of theories around why this should be, and I have done no research to support what I’m about to say, but I can’t help but wonder - is this also a product of a woundedness in men that has been inflicted by fathers (or lack of fathers)? While the response to this in many churches and Christian movements has been to create new “Men’s Ministries”, I’m not sure that this is the answer. Yes, it can be a good thing for men to get together and deal with their ‘stuff’, and for some men, the presence of women makes it impossible to be as vulnerable as they need to be to open to God. But, we don’t live in stadiums or camp sites. When the event is over, we need to return to our families and businesses and make our faith work. We need to know how to relate to women and children and the elderly, and we can only learn this by engaging with them, not by speaking about them among ourselves.

This is where worship can be such a gift. It offers us an environment in which we can gather as the family of God. Whether we are single or married, men or women, young or old, in the sanctuary we all stand before God as children of the One Father. In the sanctuary we are all challenged to love one another as Jesus loved us. In the sanctuary, we learn what it means to be fathered by God, and we learn how to follow God’s ways into becoming good fathers ourselves - right there where our wives and children are.

So, for those who carry the wound of an absent or abusive father, let me invite you to worship, where your heavenly Father offers to heal your wounds, and where your family waits to celebrate that healing with you.

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John van de Laar is a Methodist minister, liturgical consultant and the author of the book Food for the Road – Life Lesson from the Lord’s Table. He holds a Master’s Degree in theology from UNISA, and is the founder of Sacredise.com, an international worship training and resourcing ministry. John is married to Debbie, and they have two sons.
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Youth

This week is a momentous one for South Africa. It’s not just that we’re in the midst of the excitement of the World Cup. It’s that this week we celebrate one of the pivotal moments in our history - the June 16, 1976 riots in Soweto that protested the forced use of Afrikaans as a language for education in township schools. It was a tragic time in which for many of the protesters - young people who were the immediate victims of the oppressive education policies of the time - youth was lost in the chaos of political conflict. In many ways, though, their sacrifice - and deaths - resulted in huge international pressure and marked a turning point in the struggle against apartheid. Let no one ignore the power of young people when they get passionate!

Today, the Church is facing a different kind of protest from the youth. It’s not violent, and it’s often not even really recognised, but it is very real. Quite simply, our churches tend to be experienced by young people as boring, irrelevant and unfriendly places, and in response, large numbers of them are simply walking out the door. In their 2007 book, “UnChristian”, Gabe Lyons and David Kinnaman questioned young people both within the Church and outside of it on their views of the church. The title of the book is a summary of the responses they received. The results of this can be clearly seen in the demographics of the Church. I read a few years ago that the average age of people who attend Church in the United States is twenty years older than the average of the general population!

In South Africa things don’t look a whole lot different. Young people are wrestling with outdated styles of music, with overly formal services and with priorities that are completely disconnected with the realities of living in the 21st century. Somehow it seems that we have forgotten Paul’s advice to the young pastor Timothy: “Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young.” (1 Timothy 4:12 NLT).

The alternative of making young people the only priority and giving them free reign is not necessarily the answer, though. Honouring, respecting and including young people in the life and worship of a community does not mean that young people must rule the community. While they have passion in abundance, youngsters often lack wisdom and discernment - two qualities that can only be gained through experience. But, this does not mean that young people should be ruled over by their elders. Rather, the biblical pattern of leadership is service. What this means then, is that young people need those who are no longer young to serve them, create opportunities for them to use their passion, their energy and their gifts, but also guide and teach them.

In worship, in service, in learning and in leadership we can make two equal and opposite mistakes. We can ignore and reject the youth or we can worship youth and ignore the wisdom of age. Both do great damage to any community. The healthiest communities - which is where you’ll find the healthiest individuals - are those where young and old learn to play and worship and talk and live together. My dream for the Church is that we would learn, once again, how to be multi-generational. Because if we can find a way to do this, our young people will find their youth to be a time of great joy and inspiration. And then they’ll become the leaders our world so desperately needs them to be.

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John van de Laar is a Methodist minister, liturgical consultant and the author of the book Food for the Road – Life Lesson from the Lord’s Table. He holds a Master’s Degree in theology from UNISA, and is the founder of Sacredise.com, an international worship training and resourcing ministry. John is married to Debbie, and they have two sons.
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Sacredise: Competition and Collaboration

In many ways sporting events reveal both the best and the worst of humanity. We all know the frustration and disappointment when our sporting stars turn out to have cheated, used performance enhancing drugs, or turned to destructive behaviour. In South Africa we still grieve the fall from grace, and subsequent death, of our late Proteas cricket captain Hansie Cronje. But, we also all know the exhilaration and joy when sports men and women display amazing grace, compassion and good character irrespective of whether they win or lose. Who can forget the great display of skill and character that was demonstrated in the classic WImbledon final between Roger Federer and Raphael Nadal a couple of years ago? Hopefully we will see a lot of the glory and little of the darkness in the World Cup which starts this week.

But, perhaps the most amazing and inspiring aspect of sport is the way it brings together two essential human characteristics - competition and collaboration. Last week we reflected on the “down-side” of competition, but there is also a very positive side to activities in which we set ourselves in contest with each other. In competition we are challenged to work hard, to discipline ourselves and offer our very best. Without competition, we would all too easily allow mediocrity to be the standard by which we live. When we allow others to call us to a higher standard that ultimately benefits us and those who are then challenged by our achievements.

At the heart of this competition, though, is the wonderful human characteristic of diversity. Each player has different strengths and weaknesses, which must be exploited by the opponent, and compensated for by team members. Each team has a different style, different language and different strategies. The World Cup is not just a celebration of soccer. It’s a celebration of the glory and diversity of the human race.

On the other side, it’s incredible that in a tournament like this, every team and every player must collaborate in order for the competition to work. The rules are agreed on by all. The logistical elements must be shared and co-operation on times, venues, equipment and rewards must be given by all. Paradoxically, the competition cannot go ahead without significant levels of collaboration. This is the beauty of these events - even though there is only one winner, we all win because we’ve learned something precious about ourselves in the collaboration that made the whole event possible.

These two elements can teach us a lot about our worship as well. In a sense we are called to competition with each other. As we seek to follow the foot-washing Saviour (See John 13), we are called to serve each other in the best way we can. We are called to outdo one another in love and humility (Philippians 2:3-8), not so that we can boast, but so that we can give and receive life. But, at the same time, we collaborate as parts of one body (1 Corinthians 12:12-27).

In Church we are diverse - in language, music, race, gender, age, sexual orientation, theology - but we are all one in Christ. When we can worship together, celebrating our diversity and seeking to outdo one another in love and service, then we truly begin to experience the power of being the Church. So, this week, how can you embrace both your diversity and your unity as you worship?

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John van de Laar is a Methodist minister, liturgical consultant and the author of the book Food for the Road – Life Lesson from the Lord’s Table. He holds a Master’s Degree in theology from UNISA, and is the founder of Sacredise.com, an international worship training and resourcing ministry. John is married to Debbie, and they have two sons.
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Sacredise: World Cup Worship (It's Not What You Think)

It’s just over a week to go. Everything we have been talking about, working toward and hoping for will happen in just a few days. The FIFA Soccer World Cup is coming to town! To be honest, I’m not that much of a soccer fan but it’s impossible to miss the excitement, the expectation and the controversy around the world’s largest sporting event. It’s also impossible to miss the competition. This is the heart of events like these - who will win, and who will lose.

While I don’t have a problem with competition, I do wonder what impact events like this have on how we relate to one another. I have often wondered if, instead of declaring war nations in conflict simply faced each other on some kind of sports field, if this would make the world more peaceful? The reality, though, is that all too often our “friendly” competition morphs into something more sinister - as evidenced by the violence that often follows a closely contested sports match.

What does all of this have to do with worship, you may ask? Well, it seems to me that this same competitive spirit finds its way into our spirituality. Throughout history the various different expressions and groupings within the Church have been in conflict with each other - often violently. Further, it doesn’t take a prophet to recognise that underneath many of the world’s wars lies religious competition. It seems that we are determined to prove that our religion (or our particular branch of our religion) is the right one, and that all others are condemned not just by us, but by God.

And so, we speak of our traditions, our music, our rituals and our symbols as being “better” than those of others. We claim that God’s Spirit moves powerfully among ‘us’ and deny that God is even present among ‘them’. Even within the contemporary worship culture of the Western Church today, this competitive spirit is evident through awards offered to certain worship leaders and musicians over others, through the value we place on preachers and authors who sell more books and CDs than others, or who draw bigger crowds than others. We even mistakenly believe that churches that are bigger - that have ‘won’ the church growth ‘game’ - are ‘better’ or more ‘blessed’ than others. And in it all, we lose sight of the Christ who proclaimed that “the first shall be last and the last shall be first” (Matthew 20:16).

How different might our world be if those words of Christ informed our worship. If, instead of always seeking to be the ‘best’ - claiming the seat at the head of the spiritual table - we rather sought to respect, love and serve others - moving to the bottom of the table (See Luke 14:7-11)? What if, instead of trying to be the ‘best’ church, with the ‘best’ music and the ‘best’ facilities, we focussed on serving our communities and on creating transforming encounters with God with whatever resources we have? What if, instead of preaching and praying against other denominations and religions when we worship, we rather asked God to show us how to serve them, and how to work with them for the salvation of our world?

Let’s celebrate the World Cup and enjoy the spectacle. Let’s cheer our team on (Go, Bafana!), and congratulate the winners. But, when it comes to following Jesus, let’s leave the competition on the sports field.

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John van de Laar is a Methodist minister, liturgical consultant and the author of the book Food for the Road – Life Lesson from the Lord’s Table. He holds a Master’s Degree in theology from UNISA, and is the founder of Sacredise.com, an international worship training and resourcing ministry. John is married to Debbie, and they have two sons.
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Finding Yourself in the Faces of Others

Mother Theresa once said that the worst disease that afflicts human beings is the disease of being unwanted. In our deeply connected world we somehow still remain less connected than ever. The gap between the wealthy and the poor continues to grow. The ongoing conflict between people of different nationalities, religions and ideologies demonstrates how far we still have to go to find each other.

One of the great ironies of Pentecost is that this season, which is all about connection, has been the source of so much conflict within the Christian community. Just as difficult is that Pentecost is too often viewed in ways that disconnect us from God as well. Where the outpouring of the Spirit was meant to be an opportunity to recognise God’s Presence everywhere and in everything, we have turned it into a prized and protected gift that is only available to a select few who jump through the right doctrinal steps. We have built a wall around an event that was all about breaking down the walls.

Throughout Scripture God seeks to make people aware of God’s presence and Spirit that fills creation. The Psalmist sings that there is nowhere we can go from God’s Spirit (Ps.139). Every time an object draws people away from universal awareness of God, it is rejected by God. The bronze serpent that brought healing to the people following Moses became an object of worship, and the prophets denounced it. Even the Temple, in which God was thought to dwell, was ultimately destroyed before the people of Israel were able to recognise that God was with them even in exile.

However, no proclamation of God’s accessibility was ever as powerful as Pentecost. On this significant day (which we will celebrate this Sunday), we are faced with the God who is not just with us, but within us. This is both a glorious and a frightening reality. For the Jews, who believed that to see God meant certain death, a God who breaks out of the safe confines of the Temple is a scary thing. For anyone who wants to compartmentalise life, a God who indwells is a very inconvenient thing.

To go further, as the Spirit is ‘poured’ out, one of the indicators is the variety of languages that are spoken - reversing the divisions of Babel. Language, which is so often a wall between people, is removed. Culture, religion, nationality are all shifted from centre stage. The outpouring of God’s Spirit is not just the breaking down of walls between people and God, but also between people and people.

The startling truth of this is that, in Pentecost, the ultimate connectivity between all things is revealed. If our celebration of this season is to be true to this revelation, we will need to think of worship differently - not as the place where God ‘is’ and we go to meet God, but as a place in which we learn to recognise God’s Spirit in every moment and every place and every person. If we are to become people of Pentecost, we will need to think of other people differently - not as disconnected, different and ‘other than’, but as connected, God-imaged and part of ‘us’.

Could it be that this is what it means to worship in Spirit and truth? Could it be that this is the worship that can help to heal our world? It could - by breaking down the artificial walls we have created.


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John van de Laar is a Methodist minister, liturgical consultant and the author of the book Food for the Road – Life Lesson from the Lord’s Table. He holds a Master’s Degree in theology from UNISA, and is the founder of Sacredise.com, an international worship training and resourcing ministry. John is married to Debbie, and they have two sons.
Visit www.sacredise.com for more articles by John, as well as resources for personal and public worship – music, prayers, liturgies, images and drama scripts.

Breaking Down The Walls

Mother Theresa once said that the worst disease that afflicts human beings is the disease of being unwanted. In our deeply connected world we somehow still remain less connected than ever. The gap between the wealthy and the poor continues to grow. The ongoing conflict between people of different nationalities, religions and ideologies demonstrates how far we still have to go to find each other.

One of the great ironies of Pentecost is that this season, which is all about connection, has been the source of so much conflict within the Christian community. Just as difficult is that Pentecost is too often viewed in ways that disconnect us from God as well. Where the outpouring of the Spirit was meant to be an opportunity to recognise God’s Presence everywhere and in everything, we have turned it into a prized and protected gift that is only available to a select few who jump through the right doctrinal steps. We have built a wall around an event that was all about breaking down the walls.

Throughout Scripture God seeks to make people aware of God’s presence and Spirit that fills creation. The Psalmist sings that there is nowhere we can go from God’s Spirit (Ps.139). Every time an object draws people away from universal awareness of God, it is rejected by God. The bronze serpent that brought healing to the people following Moses became an object of worship, and the prophets denounced it. Even the Temple, in which God was thought to dwell, was ultimately destroyed before the people of Israel were able to recognise that God was with them even in exile.

However, no proclamation of God’s accessibility was ever as powerful as Pentecost. On this significant day (which we will celebrate this Sunday), we are faced with the God who is not just with us, but within us. This is both a glorious and a frightening reality. For the Jews, who believed that to see God meant certain death, a God who breaks out of the safe confines of the Temple is a scary thing. For anyone who wants to compartmentalise life, a God who indwells is a very inconvenient thing.

To go further, as the Spirit is ‘poured’ out, one of the indicators is the variety of languages that are spoken - reversing the divisions of Babel. Language, which is so often a wall between people, is removed. Culture, religion, nationality are all shifted from centre stage. The outpouring of God’s Spirit is not just the breaking down of walls between people and God, but also between people and people.

The startling truth of this is that, in Pentecost, the ultimate connectivity between all things is revealed. If our celebration of this season is to be true to this revelation, we will need to think of worship differently - not as the place where God ‘is’ and we go to meet God, but as a place in which we learn to recognise God’s Spirit in every moment and every place and every person. If we are to become people of Pentecost, we will need to think of other people differently - not as disconnected, different and ‘other than’, but as connected, God-imaged and part of ‘us’.

Could it be that this is what it means to worship in Spirit and truth? Could it be that this is the worship that can help to heal our world? It could - by breaking down the artificial walls we have created.

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John van de Laar is a Methodist minister, liturgical consultant and the author of the book Food for the Road – Life Lesson from the Lord’s Table. He holds a Master’s Degree in theology from UNISA, and is the founder of Sacredise.com, an international worship training and resourcing ministry. John is married to Debbie, and they have two sons.
Visit www.sacredise.com for more articles by John, as well as resources for personal and public worship – music, prayers, liturgies, images and drama scripts.

Power

What would you say is the most important question of our time? One strong contender must be the power question - how best should power be used? In the light of the corruption, leadership crises and abuses of power we see in so many governments, churches and organisations, this question grows more urgent with each passing day..

The question of power and how we understand it cannot be avoided when we celebrate the Ascension of Jesus. This event forms our view of Christ’s ‘Lordship’, and also our perceptions of where we fit into God’s purposes. I have a suspicion, though, that we have often misunderstood its real meaning. When we look back at Christian history, we cannot help but be shocked at the abuses of power revealed in the crusades and the inquisition, in slavery and the subjugation of women, in colonisation and apartheid.

Generally power can be understood in three ways. The first, which I would call “power over” is the power that is achieved through competition and conquest – the most powerful figure being the one who exerts their dominance over all others. Jesus never chose to use power in this way.

The second way of power is what I call “power under”. This is power that is exerted in hidden ways, behind the scenes and through significant connections. “Power under” may look like powerlessness, but the reality is that it is just a different way to play the power game – achieving personal goals through flattery, manipulation and association with those who wield “power over”. It may also provide an escape from responsibility and accountability. Again, Jesus refused to play this hidden, manipulative power game.

But, there is a third way to use power that is based on neither dominance (“power over”) nor manipulation (“power under”). This is the power of synergy – “power with” - that brings people into creative, collaborative, power-sharing relationships. To those who play the usual power games, this looks frighteningly like giving power away, but in truth, power shared is multiplied and expresses itself in the healthiest possible way. This is the kind of power that Jesus embraced and used throughout his life.

The Ascension is often interpreted as Jesus becoming a victorious, and ultimately retributive King. His sovereignty and power is celebrated as a destruction of death and evil, and the promise of his return as a violent conquest. But, this image goes against the character of Jesus that is revealed in the Gospels, and also ignores a few important truths.

When Jesus ascended he did an incredible thing - he carried our humanity into heaven with him. If the incarnation is God made flesh, the ascension is humanity being made “divine”. God chose to include in his eternal person, the same flesh that is our home. This is completely mind-blowing, but I challenge you to think about it for a moment. In addition, as Jesus ascended, he made it clear that he is the one who fills all things (as Paul says in Ephesians 1:23). In other words, rather than the ascension being Jesus separated from and dominant over creation, it is a proclamation of God’s all-inclusive, all-embracing love. In the ascension we are invited to realise that God is closer to us, and more committed to us, than we have ever dared to imagine. Once we have grasped the power of this truth, our response can only be humble, whole-hearted worship.

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John van de Laar is a Methodist minister, liturgical consultant and the author of the book Food for the Road – Life Lesson from the Lord’s Table. He holds a Master’s Degree in theology from UNISA, and is the founder of Sacredise.com, an international worship training and resourcing ministry. John is married to Debbie, and they have two sons.
Visit www.sacredise.com for more articles by John, as well as resources for personal and public worship – music, prayers, liturgies, images and drama scripts.